The Four Agreements: A Guide to Personal Freedom

A summary by Patty Roe, Executive Director, PS Society

At PS Society, we believe in continuous growth, meaningful connections, and the power of shared wisdom. That’s why we kicked off our soft Virtual Book Club launch in 2024 with The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz—a book that has transformed the lives of millions with its simple yet profound principles.

Ruiz, drawing from ancient Toltec wisdom, lays out four powerful agreements that, when practiced, can lead to greater personal freedom, self-love, and peace. Let’s take a closer look at these guiding principles:

1. Be Impeccable with Your Word

Words have power—the power to heal, uplift, or wound. This agreement encourages us to speak with integrity, to say only what we mean, and to use our words to spread truth and positivity. Imagine how our relationships, self-esteem, and even inner dialogue could change if we honored this agreement daily.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally

This one is easier said than done, but it’s a game-changer. Ruiz reminds us that what others say and do is a reflection of their own beliefs, experiences, and struggles—not a statement about us. When we stop taking things personally, we free ourselves from unnecessary suffering and emotional reactions.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions

We often create unnecessary drama by assuming we know what others are thinking or what certain situations mean. This agreement encourages us to ask questions, seek clarity, and communicate openly rather than letting assumptions dictate our emotions and actions.

4. Always Do Your Best

Our best will look different from day to day, but when we consistently give our best effort—without self-judgment—we create a life of fulfillment and grace. This agreement teaches us to embrace progress over perfection and to be kind to ourselves in the process.

Why The Four Agreements Matters for PS Society

At PS Society, we strive to cultivate a community of grounded, resilient, and hopeful women who support one another’s growth. The Four Agreements aligns perfectly with our values, offering a framework for personal transformation that can also deepen our connections with others.

As we read and discussed this book together, we reflected on how these agreements show up in our lives. Which one feels most natural to you? Which one is the hardest to practice? And how can we support each other in integrating these principles?

Join the conversation in our Virtual Book Club, and let’s explore books that support our growth together. Sign up on our book club page and be part of the journey!