Mastering Connection Through the PS Society Virtual Book Club: Exploring The Mastery of Self
- Patty Roe
- Jan 31
- 6 min read
By Patty Roe,
Executive Director, PS Society
There’s something truly special about women coming together to share their stories, wisdom, and aspirations. It’s even more extraordinary when we dive into a book that challenges us to grow into the best versions of ourselves. That’s exactly what happened during our first-ever PS Society Book Club meeting on January 26, 2025, where we explored the first five chapters of The Mastery of Self by don Miguel Ruiz Jr.
Let me tell you—it wasn’t just a meeting; it was a transformative experience for everyone involved. Together, we not only connected over a powerful book but also took actionable steps to bring its lessons to life in our daily journeys. If you missed it, don’t worry. I’ll walk you through the highlights and how these lessons can be applied to your own life and within our PS Society community.
The Power of Coming Together
As the meeting began, I welcomed everyone with a warm introduction to PS Society and the purpose behind our Book Club. At PS Society, we’re all about creating spaces where women can grow, connect, and support one another. The Book Club is just one of the many ways we’re working to combat loneliness while fostering personal and professional development.
Sydney kicked off the meeting and asked each participant to share two truths about themselves and a book they’ve always wanted to read. I loved to hear the laughter, heartfelt moments, and curiosity that filled the room. In that moment, it became clear that this was more than just a discussion about a book; it was the start of a deeper connection among women seeking to grow and support one another.
Diving into the First Five Chapters
Chapter 1: The Making of a Master
This chapter set the foundation for everything that followed. Ruiz emphasizes that mastering oneself begins with taking full responsibility for our thoughts, emotions, and actions. We explored the idea that self-mastery isn’t about perfection but about becoming aware of the choices we make every day.
In our discussion, many participants shared how challenging it can be to control their thoughts and emotions, especially in moments of stress or uncertainty. One member shared her experience of pausing to reflect before reacting to a heated situation at work. She explained how this small act of mindfulness helped her shift from anger to understanding.
Key Takeaway: Self-mastery starts with self-awareness. To apply this, try keeping a daily journal where you reflect on situations where you reacted emotionally. Ask yourself, “What triggered me, and how could I respond differently next time?”
Chapter 2: Understanding Domestication and Attachments
Ruiz introduces the concept of domestication—how societal influences and childhood conditioning shape our beliefs and behaviors. We examined how many of the “rules” we follow are not our own but have been imposed by others, often leading to attachments that no longer serve us.
In our discussion, we dug deep into personal attachments. Some participants opened up about societal pressures to “have it all” or meet certain expectations. One poignant moment came when Sydney shared her realization that her attachment to being seen as “always strong” was preventing her from asking for help when she needed it most.
Key Takeaway: Challenge your attachments. Begin by identifying one belief or habit that feels limiting. Ask yourself, “Is this truly mine, or has it been given to me by someone else?” Letting go of what doesn’t align with your true self can be liberating.
Chapter 3: Cultivating Self-Love
Self-love is the cornerstone of personal transformation, and this chapter really resonated with the group. Ruiz emphasizes that unconditional self-love means accepting yourself fully, flaws and all, while committing to growth.
Our discussion centered around practical ways to cultivate self-love. Many participants shared their struggles with negative self-talk. We brainstormed ideas like writing daily affirmations, creating a self-care ritual, and setting boundaries to protect our emotional energy. One member shared a personal favorite practice: looking in the mirror every morning and saying, “You are enough.” It feels silly at first, but over time, it’s deeply empowering.
Key Takeaway: Make self-love a daily practice. Whether it’s through affirmations, a gratitude journal, or simply saying no to things that drain you, prioritize yourself unapologetically.
Chapter 4: Extending Unconditional Love to Others
Loving others unconditionally is easier said than done, but Ruiz reminds us that this starts with understanding and empathy. To love without judgment, we must first free ourselves from judgment.
During this part of the discussion, we shared stories about forgiveness and letting go of resentment. One participant
talked about how she rebuilt her relationship with her sister by choosing to let go of years of misunderstandings. Her story reminded us all of the healing power of love and forgiveness.
Key Takeaway: Practice empathy and forgiveness. The next time you feel judgment toward someone, pause and ask yourself, “What might they be going through that I don’t see?”
Chapter 5: Managing Emotional Triggers
This chapter hit home for many of us. Ruiz explains that emotional triggers are often rooted in fear and unresolved pain. By recognizing our triggers, we can begin to heal and respond more thoughtfully.
The group shared their own experiences with triggers and coping strategies. We discussed the importance of identifying the root cause of a trigger instead of just reacting to the surface emotion. For example, one member shared how she uses deep breathing and journaling to process her feelings before responding to conflict.
Key Takeaway: Recognize and address your triggers. When you feel triggered, take a moment to pause, breathe, and reflect on what’s really behind the emotion. Over time, this practice can lead to profound growth.
Applying the Lessons in Community
One of the most beautiful aspects of this Book Club is how it bridges individual growth with collective connection. As we discussed the chapters, it became clear that while the journey of self-mastery is personal, it’s also deeply communal. Sharing our experiences and supporting one another amplifies the lessons of the book and reminds us that we’re never alone.
Here are some ways you can bring these lessons to life in your community:
Start a Self-Love Accountability Partner System: Pair up with another member to check in weekly and share your progress on self-love practices.
Host a Forgiveness Ceremony: Create a safe space where members can write down what they need to forgive—whether it’s themselves or others—and release it together through a symbolic act like burning or shredding the paper.
Create a Trigger Journal: Encourage members to document their triggers and reflections. Sharing these in a safe space can foster understanding and growth.
What’s Next?
As the meeting wrapped up, Sydney expressed gratitude to everyone who joined and announced our next meeting. We’ll be diving into Chapters 6–9 of The Mastery of Self, and I’m already excited about the conversations and growth that await us.
If you missed the first session, don’t worry! Each chapter is a new opportunity to grow, reflect, and connect. Our Book Club isn’t just about reading—it’s about rediscovering yourself and building lasting connections with women who want to see you thrive.
Join Us for the Next PS Society Book Club Meeting!
Date: February 23rd
Time: 6:30 PM EST
Location: Zoom - Sign Up for free on our Events page!
What to Bring: Yourself, your insights, and your copy of The Mastery of Self
Closing Thoughts
If there’s one thing I’ve learned from our first Book Club meeting, it’s this: Growth is contagious. When one woman steps into her power, she inspires others to do the same. At PS Society, we’re building a community where every woman is seen, heard, and empowered to become the best version of herself.
This community isn't about expectations of others as much as expectations of yourself to take care of yourself and let yourself grow alongside other badass women doing the same thing.
I hope to see you at our next meeting as we continue this beautiful journey together. Let’s grow, laugh, and support one another—because that’s what community is all about.
With love,
Patty Roe
Executive Director, PS Society
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